Lonely black husband

Added: Camry Hessler - Date: 12.11.2021 17:16 - Views: 30996 - Clicks: 3473

Lonely black husband

I am single black church woman. I go to church on Sunday morning because I need to hear a word from God. I need to know that there is hope in the world. I go to church because on its most good day holding constant its homophobia, materialism, and patriarchy teaches people to be a more loving, caring, and community focused people. And of course, some churches do it better than others, but the point remains that there is an attempt to provide a collective healing space for both black men and black women.

And, all that I can surmise is nothing. There is nothing unique or empowering about this essay. Of course, on the surface Cooper purports to empower black women—leave the patriarchal black church and you will find a good black man—but, she inevitability falls prey to the same paternal trappings of the Steve Harveys and Tyler Perrys of the world whereby you blame black women for their singleness and then tell them what they should be doing to get a good black man which often means playing literally by manmade rules.

Meaning, you, single church black woman, do everything and anything to gain the attention of non-church going black men. You stop going to church because men are at home watching the football game. You stop attending Bible study because all the things you need to know is found in the good book of Act like a Lady think like a Man.

You stop praying to God on your knees because you realize that knee time is reserved only for swallowing his manhood I borrowed this from my crass godmother. Ultimately, you stop seeking God who gives you strength because at the end of the day all you need is a good black man to solve all your problems.

Lonely black husband

And because of this, at best, her conclusions are misguided and ill placed. And once again, her blog is not unique or nuanced.

Lonely black husband

In general, Ms. Yes, she resents the church, and perhaps there is a level of resentment she has for black men, but her full anger rather she knows this or not is directed at black women. Black women are the problem. They go to church.

Lonely black husband

They lay prostrate at the altar beseeching Jesus for help with their wayward sons. Yes, for Ms. Deborrah Cooper, the black woman is the problem because she comes to Sunday morning worship service, Tuesday night Bible study, Wednesday night church council meeting, and Thursday night choir rehearsal. As I stated earlier, on its most good day, the black church, holding constant its homophobia, materialism, and patriarchy teaches men to be a more loving and caring husbands, fathers, and brothers.

The way you challenge patriarchy in the black church is how you challenge it in other environments i. Political Arena, in Relationships, on the Job, and at Home by being critical women of faith who like Queen Vashti refuse to acquiesce. You challenge patriarchy in the church and other environments by working to educate both men and women on how male privilege works. This is how you challenge patriarchy.

Lonely black husband

Meaning, even my attendance at church is prefaced on my desire to find a man. The Black Youth Project is a platform that highlights the voices and ideas of Black millennials. Through knowledge, voice, and action, we work to empower and uplift the lived experiences of young Black Americans today. You can get all of our newest stories and updates on BYP research in your inbox. Let the church say, Amen. Contributors The Black Youth Project is a platform that highlights the voices and ideas of Black millennials. Facebook Twitter. Follow BYP. BYP on Twitter.

Lonely black husband

BYP on FB. Black Youth Project. Our Newsletter.

Lonely black husband

Thanks for ing up! Job Title:. Your will never be distributed to any third-parties and you can unsubscribe at anytime.

Lonely black husband

email: [email protected] - phone:(868) 735-1558 x 6834

A Misguided Attempt to Empower: Deborrah Cooper’s Lonely Black Church Woman Blames Black Women for their Singleness