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As the pandemic rages on, single people are feeling the anxiety of missed opportunities. If you buy something from a Vox link, Vox Media may earn a commission. See our ethics statement. She squeezed in dates between work events and dinners with friends, expecting to settle down with a long-term partner and perhaps even start a family in the next few years. But when Covid struck, her plans, like those of many others, began to crumble. But socializing is now considered a health risk, and Bui largely has been confined to his dorm room.
Covid has made dating harder and more laborious than it was before, singles told me in more than a dozen interviews. Apps are now one of the only ways to meet people, but it can take weeks or months to take a budding romance offline. In some ways, the pandemic has only exacerbated problems with dating that had been bubbling up in recent years. Nearly half of Americans say dating is harder now than it was a decade ago. This coincides with the rise in dating apps, which are increasingly becoming the main way to find love: 39 percent of heterosexual couples and about 65 percent of gay couples met online inaccording to a Stanford University study.
But although dating apps increase your pool of potential partners, many people say they can make dating feel impersonalwhile also increasing the risk of being lied to or sexually harassed. Covid is amplifying all of these issues, and Glaser and Bui are not alone in their frustrations. As I reported this story, I spoke with single people in their 20s and 30s from a range of socioeconomic backgrounds and sexual orientations, along with researchers studying how the crisis is changing the dating landscape. They all described how the pace of dating has slowed down, making it harder and more time consuming to start romantic relationships.
Now, singles are beginning to worry that it may have a domino effect on their lives, derailing their plans to marry and start a family. I have spent a lot of time thinking about domino effects like these. This is why, as my research revealed, they spend their 20s singularly concerned with finding the right career, one that will keep them intellectually engaged and purposeful for decades to come. But as they edge into their late 20s and early 30s, finding a life partner becomes a dominant concern. This is largely because many people begin to feel their biological clock ticking.
Not everyone wants to marry or become parents, and, in fact, American millennials are increasingly opting out of both choices. Many are now worried that the pandemic may torpedo this compressed, already-stressful timeline.
There is unanimous agreement among both singles and researchers that Covid has slammed the brakes on dating. For one thing, there are fewer places to meet new people. Before the pandemic, many couples still met at school, through mutual friends and family, at church, or at bars; dating has now shifted almost entirely online. And while online dating had a reputation for being fast-paced, allowing people to churn through matches with abandon, this is no longer the case.
In the past, people would use apps to filter through matches, then meet in person as quickly as possible. These days, as cities reopen, some singles engage in an extensive screening process to determine whether to take the risk of meeting someone face to face. This has given birth to an entirely new phenomenon: the video date. Many apps, including Match, Tinder, and Hinge, are now equipped with a video function that allows matches to chat. If things go well, many daters told me, they move to FaceTime or Zoom before broaching the subject of hanging out offline.
Should they remain masked the whole time? Is indoor dining out of the question? One woman in her early 20s told me she was stunned when her date hugged her at their first meeting.
It quickly became clear that they were not compatible, and she says the disappointment stung more than usual because she had sunk more time than usual — and taken so many risks — to meet this person. This timeline makes sense, since this time period is when the average American tends to marry and well before fertility concerns kick in.
Some single people, however, are thriving under these conditions. The new conditions, she found, have been a boon for men who felt too financially strapped to pay for several dinners or coffee dates a week, as well as for single parents who had to pay for a babysitter every time they went out.
One woman I interviewed in her late 30s had been struggling for years to find a committed partner, partly because dating apps created an endless cycle of hookups followed by quick breakups. But she met someone early in the pandemic, when it was impossible to meet in person, and told me that long phone and FaceTime conversations laid a strong foundation for a serious relationship. Thombre says Match Group does not yet have data about whether this slower pace of dating means it will take longer for relationships to get serious or move toward marriage.
He points to anecdotal stories in the media about couples who met online during the pandemic and committed to one another quickly; some have even moved in together. But it is unclear how common that is. The more common story, Thompson says, is that people are struggling to keep their nascent relationships moving forward.
When these fragile new romances stall, they tend to quickly fall apart. There are existential issues that make it harder for people to connect emotionally right now, too. Glaser met a man over the summer whom she liked a lot. When they spoke over video, with the pandemic and Black Lives Matter protests playing out in the background, they had deep, intimate conversations.
They decided to take things to the next level and meet in person, but they found it hard to create a healthy relationship because both of them were wrestling with the stress of living through the current moment. They decided to call it off. College-age singles are facing their own set of problems.
Back in his hometown of Boston, he ed several dating apps, and while there were several girls he was excited about, he says it was hard to get the relationship off the ground. Video dates got boring because neither person had much going on in their life worth talking about. And planning in-person dates was hard because not everybody is comfortable eating at a restaurant or going to a museum.
Sex as a single person has been particularly difficult during the pandemic. According to a Match Group survey of 5, singles in August, 71 percent said they had not had sex in the six months. Only 13 percent said they had sex with someone with whom they were not quarantining. For instance, almost a quarter of single people reported having had sex with a non-romantic roommate since March.
One manifestation of this is that many people are reaching out to their exes. Many of her survey respondents, craving intimacy, connection, and sex, had reconnected with someone they dated in the past. They said they felt safer hooking up with someone whose lifestyle choices they already knew than with a stranger who might not be on the same about health precautions.
They rekindled their spark. During the long, boring days of lockdown, they spoke for hours a day. Then, even as the pandemic was raging, Drucker flew to Dublin to spend two weeks with him. Public health experts are hopeful there will be a widely available vaccine, allowing life to potentially return to normal, by the middle of Drucker graduates in But years of lockdowns and isolation are likely to change the course of her life in myriad unforeseen ways. Gen Z will enter the workforce at a time of economic turbulence and skyrocketing unemployment, while also learning how to deal with the new reality of remote work.
Without gyms, they may struggle to develop lifelong fitness routines; without music festivals, they may never stumble across a band that would have rocked their world. They may have fewer friends over the course of their life, another potential ripple effect of this extended social isolation. These thoughts sometimes keep Drucker up at night. She thinks about all the people she would have met during these years but will never know. Would she have fallen in love with one of them? Would she have married another? The worries tend to become more acute the closer people get to the age at which they expected to settle down into a serious relationship.
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